Being a mom is hard. It changes and challenges you in ways you never knew were possible. But despite the challenges, being a mom is an incredibly rewarding experience. Before we adopted our oldest son, there was a time when I was unsure if I would ever be a mother. I wanted that experience so badly. We fought and prayed, and fought some more in order to bring home our kids. Now that we have four kids, I definitely have days when I’m exhausted. It’s easy to forget those early days long ago when I would have given anything to be a mom.
If you are in the thick of raising tiny humans, or if you simply aren’t sure if motherhood is right for you, let me share with you 15 reasons why I love being a mom. I’ll also give you a few tips for loving motherhood just a little more!
Reasons Why I love being a mom
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Motherhood brings connection
Being a mom gives you a deep sense of connection with another human being. You are responsible for meeting the needs of your child and helping them grow, and that creates a strong bond. You connect with them. You learn what they need and don’t need. Because I spend time helping my children, I feel close to them. Humans need connection, and motherhood is a great way to foster that.
Being a mom helps me appreciate my own parents
My parents did a lot of things amazing things for me I didn’t realize or understand when I was a kid. Being a mom has given me a greater appreciation for my own parents and the sacrifices they made for me. I understand now the sacrifices they made for me and the love they had for me, and that is a gift.
Motherhood gives me purpose and meaning
As a mom, I have a sense of purpose that I never had before. I am responsible for shaping the lives of my children and helping them become the best versions of themselves. Which means I need to be the best version of me possible. If I don’t deal with my mistakes, my trauma, and my insecurities, I can’t expect my kids to do that either.
Being responsible for shaping my children’s lives also gives me a sense of purpose, meaning and fulfillment.
Having a buddy and friend
My children are still young. But, for now, I always have a buddy to pal around with. I have company with me as I run errands, clean the house, and go about my daily life. I’ve talked to many other moms who feel lonely when their kids grow up and move out because they no longer have someone with them all the time. Motherhood is hard, but having a little buddy is pretty special.
I learn so much from my kids
Being a mom has taught me so much about forgiveness, love, and patience. I mess up all of the time. I remember one time when my oldest son was young I bought a flat of eggs. I was making eggs one morning and accidentally pulled the eggs too far out of the fridge and I ended up cracking at least half the flat. Frustrated with myself, I cleaned up the mess and moved on.
Just a few days later, my 3-year-old son wanted to help me crack some eggs for our breakfast. He was in a hurry and accidentally dropped the two eggs from the counter onto the floor. I reprimanded him in frustration, only to immediately realize that I had dropped way more eggs than that just a few days before. It was a moment of clarity that reminded me that we all make mistakes. I apologized to my son and we ended up making a lovely breakfast together.
It is these types of moments when I learn so much. My children constantly forgive, love, and teach me new things and I am so grateful for it. My children have a way of teaching me things that I would never have learned otherwise.
Kids help you grow up
Being a mom has helped me grow up in so many ways. It has forced me to confront my own weaknesses and work on becoming a better person. I tell my husband often that as our kid are growing up, so are we. We are maturing and learning in ways that we couldn’t have without our kids.
Being a mom requires a lot of patience. I’m positive that every mom knows this. Children are not always easy to deal with, but learning to be patient with them is an important part of being a good parent. I’ve learned more patience being a mom than I did in my entire life before having kids.
Being able to see the world through new eyes
Wanna know something neat? I love watching my kids experience the world. Things that I take for granted or miss because they’ve become part of the mundane, are new to my kids. Have you ever watched a toddler get excited about a dump truck or train as you drive? Seeing a dump truck is nothing new to me. It’s not even enough for me to pay attention to most of the time. But as soon as my son started to notice dump trucks, so did I. We talk about how they move, wonder what they might be carrying, and squeal with excitement when we see one. It’s a simple thing, but so fun.
Children have a unique perspective on the world, and being a mom allows me to see the world through their eyes. This has given me a greater appreciation for the small things in life.
Watching my husband be a dad
Being a mom has allowed me to see my husband in a new light. He adores our children. He is constantly thinking of ways to make their lives better. He loves helping them progress and grow. He teases, tickles, and plays with them. Watching him interact with our children has deepened my love and respect for him.
Seeing them grow
My daughter has been doing gymnastics for several years. When she first started gymnastics, she was excited to do a forward roll. Then she moved on to perfecting handstands. Everyday she would do handstands again and again and again. Most recently, she has been practicing backbends. It has been so fun to see her grow in her gymnastics abilities.
This is true for all areas of my children’s lives. Watching my children grow and develop into their own unique selves is an incredible experience. It is amazing to see them learn new things and develop their own personalities.
Showing them the world
Showing my kids the world doesn’t necessarily mean taking them around the world. But, as a mom, I get the chance to show them new things. To have new experiences. I love taking them to see new places and try new things, and watching their excitement is so rewarding.
My kids encourage me to be my best
When I became a mom, I started to see all the areas where I need to improve my life. I could see clearly what habits, ideas, and practices are not serving me and my family. Being a mom makes me want to be better so that my children learn good habits and behaviors from me. I want to work through things that I’ve always avoided so that I’m setting the best example and being the best mother I can be.
The magic and sweetness
Kids are magic. They are sweet and sticky and funny and… pure magic. My kids enchant me. There are days that I can’t wait to see what they’ll say. What they’ll do. How they’ll change and grow. They are pure, fun, silly, and make the best dance party partners one could hope for. They can make life so much sweeter when I really take the time to soak them in.
Learning unconditional love
Being a mom has taught me about unconditional love. No matter what my children do, I will always love them, and that is a powerful thing. They also love me, always. No matter how good of a mom I’m being in the moment.
Being needed by someone
Being needed can be exhausting, but it can also be wonderful too. It gives you a reason to try a little harder, be a little better, and gets you outside of your own head. I’ve found that being needed by my little people helps me to feel more confident, loved, and strong.
Tips on how to love being a mom a little more:
As awesome as motherhood is, it can also be hard to see the good sometimes. If you are struggling in your motherhood, let me give you a few of my favorite tips!
Don’t compare yourself to other moms
I know you do it unconsciously. It’s so easy to look around at all the other mom’s to see how you measure up. Don’t do it! Everyone’s parenting journey is different, and what works for one family may not work for another. Not to mention, her priorities, goals, ideas, and resources are probably different than yours. Focus on yourself and what makes you happy.
Talk to your kids
Take the time to talk to your children and really listen to what they have to say. This can help you build a stronger connection with them and understand them better. This doesn’t always come naturally. I thought it would, but I still have to try hard to talk to my children intentionally sometimes. If you need help with talking to your kids, read: Your Kids Want to Talk to You
Build your village
Being a mom can be overwhelming at times, and it’s important to have a support system in place. Build your own village of friends and family members who can help you when you need it. If you are struggling to find family and friends, see if you can work extra help into your budget by hiring or trading out for babysitting.
Soak in the sweetness of your kids
Take time to appreciate the little things that your children do. Whether it’s a piece of artwork they made for you or a love note they wrote, soak in the sweetness of these moments. Before you know it, they’ll be grown and you’ll miss all the little moments of sweetness.
Let yourself realize how important you are
It’s easy to feel like you’re not doing enough as a mom, but it’s important to remember that you are important and your role as a mom is valuable. Your kids don’t want any other mom. They want you. They don’t want a perfect version of you. They want you. They want to spend time with you. To be with you. You are important and valuable and loved.
Share your favorite things with your kids
Introduce your children to the things you love. Whether it’s a favorite book, movie, or hobby, sharing your passions with your children can be a great way to bond. My husband loves to watch sports and goes out of his way to take our kids to games when his favorite team plays. I’m a book nerd and love reading with my kids. Sharing our passions with our kids creates wonderful feelings of love and closeness. It makes the hard parts of motherhood a little sweeter.
Plan adventures with your kids
Plan fun and exciting adventures with your children. Whether it’s a trip to the zoo or a hike in the woods, these experiences can create lasting memories. Years ago I started an adventure club with my kids. We would pick out fun things to do and plan out when to do them every week. Often, it was just a park visit. Other times it was a hike or a trip to the aquarium.
Adventures aren’t easy. They take planning, coordinating snacks, inviting friends, and more. But every adventure we’ve planned has been well worth it.
Take time for yourself
It’s important to take time for yourself as a mom. Whether it’s taking a relaxing bath or going for a walk, giving yourself time makes you a better mom! I notice that when I plan time for myself, I am able to show up as a happier, kinder, and more patient mom.
Pare down your schedule
Don’t overcommit yourself. As moms, it’s easy to feel like your kids will miss out if they aren’t doing ALL THE THINGS. I promise you that they’ll be fine. Pare down your schedule so that you have time for the things that are most important to you, like spending time with your children.
Don’t forget that you are all growing and learning
Parenting is a journey, and we are all growing and learning along the way. Don’t be too hard on yourself and remember to enjoy the journey. You’ll mess up sometimes. You’ll be imperfect. It’s ok. You are improving every day.
Minimalize things in your home and life
Declutter your home and your life. Simplifying your environment can help reduce stress and create a more peaceful home. It can also give you more time with your family, which feels pretty good.
Create routines and rituals for your family
Create routines and rituals for your family that you can look forward to. Whether it’s pizza night every Friday or a family movie night, these traditions can help create a sense of stability and connection.
Practice healthy self-care
Take care of yourself physically, emotionally, and mentally. Plan healthy meals for yourself. Get enough sleep. Take care of your mental health. All of these things will help you to be a better mom. Journaling also helps me sort my thoughts about motherhood. This journal is a great way to get started.
Read also: The Best Self Care Gifts for Mom
Don’t get too caught up in worrying about the future or regretting the past. Embrace today and enjoy the time you have with your children. Put down your phone. Be present with your family. Take time to enjoy today.
Being a mom is hard, but it is also one of the most rewarding experiences you can have. My children help me to be happier, and better, and live a more purposeful life. What do you love about being a mom?