Marriage isn’t anything like it looks in the movies. It takes work and consistent effort to ensure that you are nurturing your relationship. Thankfully, knowing how to show your husband you love him doesn’t have to be complicated. I’ve got 62 different ways to make him feel loved. Your husband is unique, and therefore deserves unique love. One of the best ways to show your husband that you care about him is by taking the time to learn what makes him feel loved.
Every person feels love differently
What may feel loving and sweet to one person might annoy someone else. Do you know how your husband feels love? If not, the best thing you can do is ask him. No one knows your husband better than he does!
You might be surprised by what your husband says when asked how he feels loved. He may tell you that he loves it when his wife gives him a massage or foot rub after a hard day at work. Maybe all he needs is for you to listen without judgement when he’s had a bad day.
Before getting married, I thought that a well-written love letter was the best way to show love. Guess what? My husband doesn’t really care about love letters. He’d much rather have me organize the fridge or clean out his car!
How to Show Your Husband You Love Him
Below is a list of 62 things you can do to make your husband feel loved. We hope that this gives you some ideas!
- Hold hands with him.
- Send him love letters or emails throughout the day.
- Plan an overnight date for the two of you to get away. Surprise him!
- Book concert tickets to for his favorite band.
- Give him time alone (or with his friends).
- Try something new with him. I took my husband skydiving for his birthday. I would have never done it alone, but I knew he had always wanted to try. So we went and it is a fun shared experience and memory that we have together.
- Do his laundry for him.
- Give him a back rub or foot massage.
- Go on a walk or bike ride together.
- Plan a date. Don’t just wait for him to plan all the fun. Need ideas? Read: Cheap Date Nights at Home.
- Clean the house for him.
- Listen to him without judgement when he’s had a bad day.
- Put away your phone and give him your undivided attention.
- Sit down to budget together. He might be more stressed about your finances than you realize.
- Organize the fridge or car for him.
- Play a game together.
- Surprise him with a gift that he’s been wanting.
- Pray for him.
- Apologize first.
- Say “I love you” every day, multiple times per day.
- Give him kisses on the forehead or other parts of his body when he least expects it. For example, while he is watching TV or working on the computer.
- Make him dinner.
- Ask him what you can do to make his life easier today.
- Tell him how smart and handsome he is.
- Go for a drive together.
- Play a game together.
- Pack his lunch, or make a plate of food for him when he doesn’t have a lot of time or energy.
- Spoon with him, and be the big spoon!
- Do something that you know he really enjoys, even if it’s not your favorite thing to do.
- Get excited about something he loves. My husband loves the Superbowl. I don’t really care about the Superbowl. But every year we go all out to celebrate the Superbowl. And it makes my husband feel loved.
- Send him flirty text messages or leave him a love note.
- Encourage him to pursue his dreams.
- Compliment him.
- Rub him. It doesn’t really matter where. Rub his hands while sitting in church. Rub his neck as you sit and watch a movie together. Rub his arm as you wait for your meal to come out at the restaurant.
- Surprise him by pulling him into a bathroom or closet and giving him a quick makeout session.
- Give him coupons for a back rub, free chore pass, etc.
- Praise him when you are with your family and friends.
- Let him sleep in.
- Get gear that represents his favorite sports team.
- Cuddle with him while watching TV.
- Tell him you love him.
- Bake him something tasty.
- Give him a gift for “alone” time with you.
- Initiate sex.
- Pick out new clothes for him. Your husband may not appreciate this, but mine hates shopping and loves it when I just get what he needs.
- Try something new in the bedroom.
- Give him his favorite snack.
- Brush against him as you pass by him.
- Set a regular lunch date with him. My husband and I have a standing Friday afternoon lunch date.
- Gift him with a tee time (and then give him the extra time to go!)
- Thank him for all he does for you and the rest of the family.
- Squeeze his butt.
- Workout together. Hit the gym or go for a run as a couple.
- Make him breakfast in bed.
- Praise him to the kids.
- Mow the lawn or do other yardwork for him.
- Bring him a drink. Be it an early morning wake up, a giant glass of water while he’s doing yard work, or a cup of hot chocolate/lemonade after he gets home from work. My husband LOVES it when I bring him a drink. It doesn’t matter what it is.
- Work with him on a project he’s been hoping to accomplish.
- Pick up his favorite snacks the next time you grocery shop.
- Put on your song and dance with him in the kitchen.
- Over-communicate. Sometimes I think I’m being clear about what I want, but my husband can’t read my mind. I’ve found that if I over-communicate what I want, we both feel better.
- Put extra effort into a chore you hate, but know he appreciates. For my husband, this means taking a few extra minutes to organize the Tupperware drawer as I empty the dishwasher.
Every person needs to be loved in a different way. Beyond asking your spouse, you can also learn more about how to show love to your spouse. One of my favorite books for helping couples learn about this is Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages book. My mother-in-law gave us this book early in our marriage and it was eye opening! It’s helped me focus my love-giving efforts on the things my husband appreciates the most.
The best thing you can do for your husband is respect him, listen to him, and show compassion towards him. Hopefully this list will help inspire you on all the little things you can do to make your husband feel loved.